Episode 6 – The Power of Goal Setting
Hello and welcome to the show! I’m so excited because this is my favourite subject because I love setting goals because it’s like going through the world catalogue and saying I would like one of those and two of these. In the previous episode, you discussed your life purpose, determined your vision and you clarified what your true desires are. Now that you have clarified them it’s now time to convert them into specific measurable goals and objectives. The important thing now is to make sure that you act on them with absolute certainty that you achieve them. Remember, your brain is a goal-seeking organism, so when you send your goals to your subconscious mind, your brain will begin to work day and night in trying to find ways to get what you want.
I would like to give you an example of the immense power of goal-setting. A psychology professor named Dr. Gail Matthews conducted her own study that focused on how goal achievement is influenced by 1. Writing down your goals. 2. Committing to the actions required. 3. Being held accountable for those actions.
So she recruited 267 participants between 23 – 72 from around the world the US, Europe, Australia, and Asia. The participants were from different backgrounds and occupations such as entrepreneurs, educators, artists, lawyers, bankers, marketers, health care professionals, heads of non-profits and many more.
They were then assigned into five groups to set goals for a four week period
With Group 1, all they had to do was think about their goals and what they wanted to achieve in that time, and to not write them down.
In Group 2,3,4&5 the requirement was to just write down their goals.
Group 3 was also asked to complete a list of actions.
Group 4 was also asked to complete a list of actions, but also to send the action commitments to a friend who they felt would support their goals.
Group 5 was to do all the above, but also make sure they sent a weekly progress report to their supportive friend.
So what happened was at the end of the four weeks everyone was asked to report their progress on what they had achieved.
And these were their results.
Group 1, the ones that just thought about their goals, achieved 43% of their goals
Group 2&3, the ones that thought about and wrote down their goals achieved 56% of their goals.
Group 4, the ones that thought, wrote and shared with a friend achieved 64% of their goals.
Group 5, thought about, wrote down, shared with a friend as well as reporting weekly achieved 76% of their goals. That’s a 33% increase over Group 1!
This study provides us with evidence about the importance and effectiveness of three essential actions, writing your goals down, making a public declaration of your goals and being accountable to another person. These could be in the form of an accountability partner, a coach, or even a mastermind group. I’ve been part of a mastermind group for quite some time now, and it is has been life-changing, they provide me with support and accountability for the next steps I need to take before we meet up again.
Another study was completed which came to the conclusion that the percentage of people that write down their goals and review them regularly earn 9 times more over the course of their lifetimes, than those who don’t set them, I mean this study alone should motivate you to write them down.
SO HOW DO I SET A GOAL?
Ok so lets now get down to the nitty-gritty of goal setting, this is really getting into chunking it down into small pieces.
With goal-setting, it needs to meet two criteria.
How much, and by when.
So what I mean by how much is, a measurable quantity, such as kilograms, dollars, square metres, points, etc.
And when I say by when, you need to state a specific time and a specific date. An easy way to understand this is to state in such a way that anyone of your friends can turn up and be able to measure it. Think of it like this, “I will lose 10 kilos” is not as powerful a statement as stating “I will lose 10 kilos by 5 pm on 30th June. The second statement is much more powerful because anyone can show up at that time to look at the scales and see if you have achieved the goal or not. Being specific in describing your goals is so important. The specificity should include things like, make, model, the features, the size, the weight, the form, the year, the colour. Write them out as if you were writing out specifications for a work order. Think of it as a request to God, the universal mind or the quantum field. Don’t be vague because setting vague goals will produce vague results. Include every possible detail.
I’ll give you a few examples of a Goal VS A good idea.
I would love to own a lovely house on the beach. Now that sounds great, but it’s only an idea, it’s not a specific goal or objective.
The best way to say it would be:
I will own a 60 square home on Sydney Harbour, Australia by noon, on June 30 and then you would state the year.
Another one is I want to lose weight. Well, that’s just fine and dandy but its just an idea.
So what you would say and write would be:
I will weigh 60 kilograms by 5 pm on June 30 and you would state the year.
Now if you’re a leader or you run organisation you might say I need to treat my employees better, again it’s only an idea.
The correct statement might be:
I will acknowledge a minimum of 10 employees for their exceptional contribution to their department by 5 pm this Friday.
If it’s a house write down the specifics in vivid colourful details, the furniture, artwork, garden plan, and floor plan. If you have a photo of it you can you put that on your affirmation card or on your vision board or in your wallet or place it on your fridge so that you can look at it every day.
Now expanding on that, when you create your goals make sure that you write down some really big ones that will require you to grow to achieve. You may find that once you do this, you may begin to feel a little uncomfortable, and this may not feel good at first, but it is the best feeling because it means you are unsure or you have a slight fear of how it is going to manifest.
In addition to achieving your material goals, once you achieve your big goals you will become a master at life. So to do this you will need to learn new skills, you will expand your vision of what’s possible, you will build new relationships and finally, you will learn to overcome those fears you may have as well as the roadblocks.
THE BREAKTHROUGH GOAL
The next step is to create a breakthrough goal. In addition to all the steps we have discussed on how to create a clear and concise goal I would like to encourage you to think of and write down a goal that when you actually achieve it, it will blow your mind.
I want you to think about a goal, that if you were to achieve it, would be a quantum leap for you and your career, a breakthrough, not a small step, but a breakthrough. So what would be a breakthrough for you?
Most goals represent incremental improvements in your life, which are great, but you need to set a huge stretch goal, for example, you may need to lose 50 kilos, or you want to appear on a popular late-night tv program, or you want to win a gold medal at the Olympics, you might want to get a Ph.D., or you might want to host your own radio show, or maybe you want to write a best-selling book. Just imagine how the achievement of this goal would change everything in your life. Is that worth pursuing with absolute passion? Wouldn’t it be great to focus each day on it until it was achieved?
A breakthrough goal is something that will change your life, it will bring with it new opportunities, places you in front of the right people and takes everything you are involved in up to the next level.
If you’re a stay at home mum, wouldn’t your lifestyle and finances change if you earned an extra one to two thousand a month from working from home with your skills in internet marketing? Wouldn’t you look for every opportunity until you achieved that goal?
Now, I’m going to be giving you more actions to take, but don’t think of it as a chore, make it fun, this is so exciting setting them up and reading them and believing they are on their way.
Once you have your goals written down, I would like you to read them three times a day, this will activate the creative powers of your subconscious mind. Read them out loud and close your eyes and feel the feelings as if they have already been achieved, and do this one goal at a time.
I have mine in my bedside table they’re 3×5 cards you can buy at your local stationery store, I read them in the morning and before I go to bed. Another way you can do it is to have a screen saver with all your goals or on your smartphone. Always carry your most important goal in your wallet, it’s very powerful to have it with you at all times. Another way is to create a goals book, it could be a three-ring binder, a scrapbook or a journal, then create a separate page for each goal. Get images from magazines, catalogues, and travel brochures its so much fun to do. Review the pages of your goals book at least once a day.
THE STRUCTURAL TENSION
Now what will happen is what psychologists call “structural tension” in your brain. This is fantastic because your brain is attempting to close the gap between your current reality and the actual vision of your goal. As you consistently repeat and visualise your goal as already achieved, this increases that tension. What we know is that when you visualise a result, your subconscious mind does everything it can to get you that result, like a missile that is seeking its target, but it has to have its target, so we set a vision, but now we program that vision, that target into our brain through affirmations and visualisations and by doing that on a daily basis, it sets up a process in our brain, that will figure out where you want to go.
So when we have a vision of something we want, and we don’t have it in reality, I want a Mercedes I don’t have it, I want a $1m a year income I don’t have it, so if you are visualising a luxurious ocean view apartment in the CBD of your city, and you live in the outback your brain is saying to you wait a minute you crazy person you live out in the middle of nowhere, you are not in that apartment. So to get rid of that tension, one of two things has to happen, you either give up the dream, or you have to get yourself to that apartment. Then the tension will release. So we are purposely creating tension in the brain so that the brain will solve the problem.
Now three things are going to happen, you will get a shift in perception, you will acquire expanded creativity, meaning you will start seeing things you never noticed before, your perceptual field will open up, you will start having creative ideas you never had before, it’s like when you share your vision, you start getting creative ideas of what steps you can take to get closer to your goal. It might be while you’re in the shower or while you’re driving your car. You will get increased motivation to take action, following this you will find yourself taking action, which will then produce the results you want. So that’s the model of how this works.
GET OUT YOUR CHEQUE BOOK
I want you to get out your cheque book, if you still have one haha
Around 1990 Jim Carrey was a struggling Canadian comic. What he did one day was he drove his old Toyota up to Mulholland Drive in Los Angeles and looked down to the town below. As he was looking below dreaming about what could be, he wrote himself a cheque for $10m dollars and dated it Thanksgiving 1995. So he gave himself 5 years to achieve his dreams. It eventually paid off with the huge success of The Mask, Ace Ventura Pet Detective, Dumb & Dumber, by this stage his asking price had risen to $20m dollars per movie. When Jim’s father died in 1994, he placed the cheque in the coffin as a tribute to the man who had nurtured his dreams of being a star.
If that hasn’t enticed you to write down your goals I don’t know what will!
So what I would like you to do now is to write down 101 goals you would like to achieve before you die. This list would include, places you want to go, people you want to meet, things you want to achieve, things you want to own, awards you would like to win, using all the methods I have mentioned today. Then every time you achieve a goal I want you to write a word next to it, like Victory, Done or Success all with exclamation marks against them and celebrate each time.
THE THREE CONSIDERATIONS
A really important thing to consider is that once you set your goal, three things are going to emerge that will stop most people—— but not you. You need to know that these three things are just part of the process and that they are just things that you are meant to handle just like a lot of other things in your life. So don’t let them stop you.
These three obstacles to success are Considerations, Fears, and Roadblocks. Think about when you have previously set a goal and the thoughts that went through your mind. You may have thought that you want to double your income for the following year and then all of a sudden considerations such as “I’ll have to work 10 hours more a week”, or “I won’t have time for my family” will begin to emerge. Thoughts might emerge that you won’t get through a job interview successfully, or the employer won’t like you, or you won’t be dressed appropriately for it, All these thoughts are considerations. They are all the reasons why you shouldn’t even attempt to try and achieve the goal. But don’t look at this as a bad thing, because this is going to be great, you now are aware of these thoughts, they have been in your subconscious mind stopping you all along! So what’s happened is that you have now brought them into your conscious awareness so that you can now deal with them, confront them and then just move on right past them.
The next one is Fears. These are your feelings. There are so many different types of fears, such as fear of rejection, fear of being made a fool of, the fear of failure or the fear of being emotionally hurt. So just remember these are just part of the process and that they are there, experience them, deal with them and then move on.
And finally, there are those rock blocks that appear or some might call them the proverbial brick wall. Don’t take these too seriously, they are just external circumstances and they are well being the thoughts and feelings in your head. Examples might be that your business partner does not agree with your next business idea or may not want to invest further into the business and they may not have the same business goals as you. Or it might be that what you are wanting to do is not legal in your state. It is possible you may have to approach a government department to have a law changed. It might be that your spouse does not want to go on holidays to the destination that you have suggested, it’s just a roadblock, it is simply an obstacle that the world will throw at you, you simply need to deal with them as they come along and move forward.
Unfortunately, most people see these considerations, fears and rock blocks as STOP SIGNS. So you will say mm now that I really think about it, I don’t think I’ll pursue that goal or I might change my goal to something else.
So please see the considerations, fears, and roadblocks as the normal part of the process.
Think of it like this, if you renovate your kitchen, you will resign yourself to the fact that there is going to be dust and mess and disturbance for a while until it is all completed. It is the price you have to pay to get your dream kitchen, you simply learn to deal with it. It is the same thing. Learn to welcome them, they are supposed to show up, if they don’t, it means that you have not set a goal big enough that will make you grow and stretch you, you have set a goal that entails no real potential for self-development.
Once you are aware of these three things, you can face them, deal with the process and deal with them accordingly. And the great thing about this is that once you do this, you will become better prepared for the next venture you want to undertake.
Overcoming all the considerations, fears and roadblocks will give you material rewards which are great, money, houses, boats, power and fame, but this can all be taken away in a flash, but … the person you have become in the process cannot.
I love this quote by Jim Rohn who said, “YOU WANT TO SET A GOAL THAT IS BIG ENOUGH THAT IN THE PROCESS OF ACHIEVING IT, YOU BECOME SOMEONE WORTH BECOMING.”
I hope I have clarified how to successfully set a goal and how to deal with those little thoughts in your head that are trying to stop you from achieving it.
Remember a goal is only a dream unless it has clarity and has a deadline.
So get moving and set those goals and if you have any questions don’t hesitate to drop me a line by going to my contact page at yourroadtosuccesspodcast.com.au. You can also follow me on Instagram and Facebook.
Thanks for listening, next week I’ll be talking about breaking down your goals into little pieces, so it doesn’t become so overwhelming. Until then, have a wonderful and successful week!