Episode 4 – Believe It’s Possible For You!
Hello and welcome to the show! Thanks for being here! Today I’ll be expanding further from what you really want to actually believing you can have it. To believe that it is possible and to believe it is possible for you. Unbeknownst to many, the mind is an extremely powerful instrument. It can deliver to you what you want but first, you are required to believe that what you want really is possible. Napoleon Hill, the author of “Think and Grow Rich” which is a book I highly recommend, once said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
There have been many changes in scientific research regarding how humans respond to outside influences. They have always believed that we respond according to all this information coming into the brain from the outside world, however current research suggests that we are responding to what the brain expects will happen next on the basis of our previous experiences.
There have been many studies done on this subject for example in the medical field where subjects were divided into two groups, one group had a scraping done and the other just had a “pretend” Surgery done where the surgeon made a tiny incision into the area as if to insert their instruments but actually did nothing to the areas. After two years, the patients that did not have any surgery done reported that they had equal improvement of pain relief and improved movement as the patients that actually had the surgery. So the brain expected the improvement to happen and so it did. This is known as the placebo effect.
You’re probably wondering how and why the brain works this way. There are neuropsychologists who study expectancy who state that the reason for this is that we have become conditioned. Going through our lifetime of events our brain actually learns what to expect. We often achieve exactly what we anticipate because our brain is expecting something to happen in a particular way.
So how do we change this? It is so important from now on to hold positive expectations in your mind. Once you start doing this you will replace the negative expectations with positive ones, following this you will begin to believe that you want is really possible. What’s so wonderful about this is that the mind will begin to try to find ways to accomplish what you want to achieve. It will do this by finding people, resources, places objects for you to find what you’re looking for, and what’s even better is that your brain will actually expect that outcome to be realised.
So just remember that it’s not what you don’t know that is holding you back, it’s what you do know that isn’t true.
Deepak Chopra said – “You must find a place in yourself where nothing is impossible”
I don’t know if you remember Cliff Young but back in 1983, a 61-year-old scrawny little potato farmer entered the Sydney to Melbourne ultramarathon, which is one of the world’s most difficult challenges, it’s about 875 Kms of flat roads and hilly roads that takes about a week to complete. The runners were allowed to eat and sleep whenever they liked and the winner would win $10,000. When he arrived at the event everyone made fun of him because of his attire, he had overalls on and rain boots. All the rest of the runners were obviously much younger than him and were all dressed in famous brand running gear and all dressed to impress. The race officials were quite concerned whether Cliff could complete it and that he may have a heart attack, but of course, Cliff assured them that it would be fine because he grew up on a farm where they couldn’t afford horses and four-wheel drives, and that whenever there was a storm coming he would often run for two to three days without sleep in order to round up the 2000 sheep on their large property. So the race began and all the runners left Cliff behind. He started with a slow pace and style that would later be called the Cliff Young Shuffle. The race officials were so sure that Cliff would die somewhere along the route. This is where it gets interesting, Cliff had a secret that no one knew about-including him.
Think about this, Cliff had never had or talked to a coach, he had never read books or magazines on long-distance running. He didn’t know that you are supposed to sleep for seven hours a night during a long-distance endurance race. On the first night of the race, Cliff only slept for two hours. So he ran while the other runners slept, he took the lead on that first night and maintained it for the remainder of the race. Now the following day he ran nonstop for 23 hours, pausing to sleep for only one hour. He was running with virtually no sleep for the entire race and guess what, he crossed the finish line 10 hours ahead of the next runner.
What an amazing achievement, he had covered the 875 Kms in 5 days, 15 hours and 4 minutes – this is the equivalent of almost four marathons a day – this shattered the previous race record by more than two days!
I’ve told you Cliff’s story to illustrate that sometimes, as I said earlier, it isn’t what you don’t know that blinds you to your future successes, its what you actually do know that is absolutely not true.
Don’t you think it’s time to question all of your assumptions, (because that’s what they are) to now be open to new possibilities and the new vision that is your future?
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
If you really want to succeed you have to believe that you have the ability to make it manifest. That you have the right stuff, that you are able to pull it off. Believe in yourself. You have the abilities, the inner resources, the talents, and the right skills to reach your goal. It is a choice. And it can be developed over time. It would have helped if you had positive and supportive parents who guided you through life with positive reinforcement, but the fact is that most of us had parents that inadvertently passed on to us the same limiting beliefs that they grew up with. Now this not about blaming, our parents did the best they could with the knowledge, education, resources and abilities that they had at the time. The past is past now, so its time to take charge and take responsibility for your own self-reflection and beliefs. You can achieve anything you set your mind to, anything, you know why? Because you can.
It might help you to know that the latest brain research now has uncovered that consistent positive internal activities such as positive self-talk, affirmations, visualisations, coaching and practice you can learn to do almost anything you want. If a high school dropout can become a billionaire, a dyslexic student becomes a best-selling author then you can reach the vision of what you want to become you just have to simply believe that it possible for you and believe that you deserve it. Once you fully believe that it is possible, you will start to do things that are required for you to get the result you want. Just imagine what potential is lying dormant inside you that could be released if you just chose to believe in yourself and your abilities?
Henry Ford – The founder of the Ford Motor Company said;
“I am looking for a lot of men who have an infinite capacity to not know what can’t be done”
It’s time to give up the words “I CAN’T”. If you want to be a success you need to remove them from your vocabulary along with its cousins “I wish I were able to” “I don’t think I can” These words actually disempower you and they actually make you weaker when you say them. In my workshops, I use a technique called applied kinesiology to test my participant’s muscle strength as I tell them to say different negative and positive phrases. When they say something like “I can’t play the guitar” their arm goes weak as opposed to “I can play the guitar” and their arm is stronger. As I said earlier your brain is designed to solve any problem you give it and reach any goal that you give it. This demonstrates that the words you think and say actually affect your body.
So, from now on you must remove “I Can’t” from your vocabulary.
AN UPLIFTING STORY
I love this story about Catherine Lanigan. All through her childhood and teens, she was considered a gifted writer. She eventually enrolled in a school of journalism. While at this school she was recommended for a creative writing seminar which was usually reserved for the seniors, which was to be taught by a visiting professor from Harvard. So she wrote her first story. This visiting professor called her into his office to discuss her story, threw it across his desk and said: “Frankly Miss Lanigan, your writing stinks.” Of course, she was absolutely devastated. He said I have no idea how you got into my class. He didn’t like her plot structure or anything about her characters. He pretty much told her she would never make it as a writer but that she was fortunate because he caught her at the crossroad of her life. He said that her parents were spending a lot of money on her education and that she needed to change her major. But it was too late in the semester for her to drop out of the course, so he made a deal with her. He said that he would get her through with a B if she promised never to write again. She couldn’t see any other choice so she took the deal. Feeling so disillusioned she went back to her room, burnt the manuscript and declared, I vow I will never believe in dreams only with reality. Following this, she changed her major to education. For 14 years Catherine didn’t write, not one sentence. But one summer when she was in San Antonio, Texas, she noticed that there was a group of writers and journalists sitting around a table by the pool at her hotel. She summoned up the courage to go over and talk to them. She said I just want you to know that I really admire what you do as journalists, seeking out news stories. My dream has always to been to be a writer. The writers wondered why she never pursued her dream. She replied, “I have it on good authority that I have no talent whosoever.” They asked who told her that, and of course, she went on and told them the story of the professor. One of the writers gave her his card and told her to call him once she had completed her next attempt at writing. She told him that she wasn’t going to write anything, to which he replied, “Oh yes you are.”
So, she sat down and after a year of writing, she completed her book and sent it to him. Three months later he called her and said that he liked her book and had sent it to his agent who would be calling her in half an hour. The agent called and said, “Catherine you are startlingly talented!” Soon after, Catherine signed a contract with the agency and within three weeks had two publishing companies bidding on the book! Since then Catherine has published over 33 books. Do you want to know what the book was sent to the agency? It was romancing the Stone! Followed by Jewel of the Nile. Both of which were made into blockbuster movies starring Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner.
Now let’s do a little reflection on this. Catherine lost the first 14 years of what could have been a successful and creative writing career because of what her professor said to her.
“DON’T EVER LET SOMEONE ELSE TELL YOU WHAT YOU ARE NOT CAPABLE OF”
By doing the right training, practicing persistence, determination and putting in the hard yards you can eventually do anything you set your mind to.
Remember, your beliefs are a choice and make the choice to believe in yourself no matter what anyone else says.
ITS NEVER TOO LATE
There is a very common excuse people make to avoid the risk of going for it is “I’m too old” or “It’s too late for me” “I should have started sooner”. Well, this is absolutely not true.
There are so many people in history who started over later in life such as one of the most famous chefs, Julia Childs, she didn’t even learn to cook until she was almost 40 and didn’t start her television show “The French Chef” until she was 51.
Susan Boyle who at 48 entered as a contestant on Britain’s Got Talent by belting out “I dream a dream”. Since then she has sold over 20mil copies, received Grammy nominations.
Ray Kroc the mastermind behind McDonald’s. At the time was a salesman selling a milkshake machine that would make five milkshakes at once. At 52, he convinced the McDonalds brothers who owned a few great hamburger restaurants in California, to let him help them franchise their operation on a national scale. Seven years later he convinced them to sell out their shares and went on to become a billionaire.
There are so many examples I could give you about people who never thought it was too late to start again. But I’ll give you one more which warms my heart.
In 2011 Leo Plass graduated at 99 years old with an Associates Degree from Eastern Oregon University, setting a world record for the oldest man to get a UNI degree. It’s so clear that it is never too late to do anything.
Now, on the flip side, you’re never too young to start either!
There are people that tell themselves that they are too young to start or that they don’t have any experience yet to pursue what they want. This is also completely false.
My mentor Jack Canfield was speaking at a conference when he met a young man Ryan ross who at the time was 12 years old. He was affectionately known at the time by the media as “Tiny Trump”. When he was 3 years old he started a chicken and egg business in his parents’ backyard. He had about 60 chickens and was making around $15 a day by selling eggs for $3 a dozen. He got tired of that and started a new venture-a lawn mowing business. Charging $20 an hour, he made $5 an hour because he was too young to operate a lawnmower so he made older kids do the work for $15 an hour. How creative was he? His next business was a power-washing business, he charged $200 an hour and paid someone $100 to do the work for him. At the age of 5, Ryan was already investing his money in real estate in his hometown of Toronto, Canada. So by the time he was 8, he owned 6 buildings and had a personal net worth of $1m. He now does philanthropy feeding and clothing families in third world countries. He told Jack that day that he was having lunch with the real Donald Trump the following week.
I could go on and on with examples but just know that it’s never too late to start and never too early to start either.
I saw a bumper sticker recently which I thought was quite funny, that said “don’t believe everything you think”
If one of your conditions is to have others acceptance and a belief in your dreams, for the most part, you won’t accomplish anything. It’s all about you, what you want to accomplish in your life and what you want to do to get there. It’s not the goals, desires, opinions, and judgements of your friends and family that’s going to get you there. Stop worrying about what people think about you and what you are doing and follow your heart.
I like Dr. Daniel Amen’s 18/40/60 rule. When you’re 18 you worry about what everybody is thinking of you: when you’re 40, you don’t give a darn what anybody thinks of you; when you’re 60, you realise nobody’s been thinking about you at all.
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I’ll leave you with this thought….
“WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU, IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS”
Thanks for listening and have a successful week!